Somewhere around December, the wifey begins to complain about one thing. Well, she does complain about the weather, and about the heating bills, and about "dawn" meaning "mid-morning," and snow tracked in (when we all should know darn well to take off our boots at the door) — but those are "regular complaints," parts of life that nobody really likes but nobody who lives here hates enough to do anything about it. You can’t really live anyplace without a list of those in your pocket; part of life is grumbling a little bit about your world, just to make small-talk. No, my wife’s complaint, a genuinely painful grievance, is that we can’t go for a walk.
While neither of us could be considered "old" (except by our children), a couple years ago we had started to notice our inactive lifestyles weren’t friendly to our bodies. My wife and I were both geekish youth, neither the sporting type, so going to the gym or joining a league
wouldn’t fit our lifestyles. We have dogs and kids, so we’d gone for walks in the past, but we hadn’t really considered the health benefit until we started loking at what we had. Our decision, as a first step in making ourselves healthier, was to walk more.
Fargo may not be pedestrian-friendly in the winter, but the city has made up for it in accomodating summer walkers. It is a rare area that has no sidewalks (such as the industrial park); every place that people would live has a sidewalk at their front door. This consistency makes variations surprising: the cul-de-sac near South Kmart whose sidewalk ends half-way around, or the stretch of 13th avenue, around 24th street, with two sidewalks separated by three feet of grass and trees, running the length of the block. When I both lived and worked downtown, my car sat unused for weeks at a time. When we lived on the south side, walking was limited a bit due to the curvy chaos of new subdivisions and trouble in fording the wide gulfs called University Drive, 25th Street, and I-94. It didn’t stop us from heading north to Ice Cream + (stopping on the blue bridge over 94 to wave at semi drivers), or all the way to Rose Creek via the paved-over abandoned rail line.
Now that we’re on the north side, not far from Downtown, we can accomplish most of our days’ activities on foot. Heading up to Sunmart to pick up dinner isn’t a chore: it’s a family event. The dogs are harnessed up, the kids fight over who leads which pup, and we head out the door. The walk is maybe eight blocks, roundtrip, but added up over weeks and months we easily walk several miles for a task that, in winter, takes one person in the van. Efficiency isn’t the purpose; taking a walk is meant to burn energy, not conserve it. It also gives us fifteen minutes with the kids, without games or toys in the way…and I can’t possibly express the joy our dogs feel to go for a walk. Because of our consistency, the circle we call "neighbors" has expanded. People who live from car to garage don’t meet the people who live over a block away. In our neighborhood, those people get concerned when we walk by without our dogs. "Where are the puppies today?" they ask; "Grounded!" we reply, even though we all know the dogs had done nothing wrong. The grocery store baggers know we want our milk double-bagged to survive the trip. We know which houses have squealing children who like to pet our dogs, and which yards have dogs that make sure you know, in no uncertain vocal terms, that you’re on their sidewalk.
Just walking to the store isn’t enough, though; it’s a reason to remind ourselves the necessity of a walk, but we still want more. At least twice a week, we go for a long walk.
North Fargo is often compared to small-town living. It’s not a completely fair comparison, because of property prices, crime rates, and the amount of traffic, but the general sentiment is present. That small-town coziness spreads into the South side, at least as far as 13th avenue. The streets are narrow and arched-over by tall trees. Houses are reasonably sized and on proportionately large lots. People spend time on porches and decks connected to the front of their house, rather than hidden behind huge privacy fences in their back yards. Garages are properly tucked away in alleys or at the rear of the lot, rather than a monolithic guardhouse fifteen feet forward of the front door. Age has created an eclectic mix of housing types: houses that were once similar and cookie-cutter have been torn down and rebuilt, fixed up, reshingled and re-windowed, added to and trimed down. Small apartment buildings with unique designs are tossed in with the single-family homes. Sidewalks do their best to navigate around old encroaching trees, odd intersections, and a hundred years of lawn work.
To support the dogs on a longer walk, we equip ourselves with a water bottle, a collapsible doggie bowl, and four poop baggies (after discovering the pups sometimes save up for an extra deposit). Everyone gets on walking shoes, hats and sunglasses, and we head out the door. Our destination isn’t nearly as important as just being out and about. We try to stick to tree-shaded walks and away from the more major streets, for everybody’s comfort. Much of the time we just wander the streets around our house, looking at the older homes and studying the flower gardens for unusual specimens. The houses in our area are mostly in the century-old range, and for the most part they’re well cared for. Some yards are quite clearly rentals, while others are in disarray due to carelessness. Their yards are strewn with garbage, grass turning yellow, disabled vehicles with weeds growing under tires — one particularly unpleasant building had a Nazi flag hung in the front window, the yard disintegrated to bare dirt and scattered weeds. These, thankfully, are rare on our walks; most residents are proud of their homes, and despite income or physical abilities lawns are mostly mowed and yards are kept clean. When I grew up on this end of town it seemed in more disrepair than today, and I’m pleased to see the number of older houses restored and improved.
Other times, we head down to the river. The north Fargo bike paths follow the length of the Red River, from El Zagal to a block north of Oak Grove, and at Oak Grove a path leads across into Moorhead, just north of the Moorhead Center Mall, or we could continue south all the way to Lindenwood Park. The family entourage hasn’t been equipped for the full journey to Lindenwood, but we’ve crossed the Red into Moorhead just to see what’s there. The paths along the river are more fun for the litle explorers, dog and human alike. The children know not to get to far beyond eyeshot, so they’re allowed a bit more room to browse the underbrush along the path. The kids start out restricted by conformity, their feet stuck within the borders of the path, but with a little experimentation and encouragement from the adults they begin to expand their range, hiding behind trees and walking through the grass. Tiny frogs and caterpillars are discovered; however, the youngest of the kids have too much city in them. I’m often recruited to catch whatever fearsome fauna they encounter, but I’m happy that they get to see something other than the mosquitos and ants in our backyard.
Because the walks started for the parents’ benefit, we do find the time to go without the kids. The wifey and I have been known to walk to Mexican Village for good food and a pitcher or two of margueritas. Just this afternoon, Grandma took the kids to the pool, so my wife & I hitched up the pups and went for a long walk around the neighborhood, forging as far east as the 2nd Street construction and as far north as 12th Avenue. The dogs returned home winded, but the break from work and some time alone were refreshing for the two of us. I can tell why my wife misses the walks in the winter. We get so much from them, from time with loved ones to a change of scenery. We started walking with exercise in mind, but now it has become a regular part of our family’s summer. We walk for fun, and it’s a loss to be without it. The winters may be long, but we make due; invariably, there’s one or two walks that start too early the spring, walks that are cut short by razor-sharp wind and uncrossable puddles, forcing us to head for home far sooner than we’d like. Still, we keep trying: our walks are hard to live without.